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Enjoy this life
Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate.

Everyone of us must know that this is the first and the last time to come over on this earth and therefore, we should enjoy life and since we do not know when we shall go out of this life, therefore, we should not keep our enjoyments for another day. Every minute of this life is precious for us and it could be the last minute to live here. Therefore, we must enjoy and we must arrange our life in such a manner that we have got very few worries with us.

We have already left the days when this man was living in jungles, in mountains, was in the stone age or he was not having a married life nor he was having a house to which he could call his home. But man had been crossing all these ages and now he has come in the age of science and technology and now everything could be available at his door. Therefore, he can enjoy life if he so desires. For enjoying life, we have got certain basics and if those basics are not available with us, we shall be facing difficulties and we shall not be able to enjoy this life. The man should have proper education with him, proper training with him and he should try to have a proper work for him so that he could earn money sufficient to carry on day to day life. At present we have to purchase things for our use and therefore, we need money and therefore, everyone should earn money which should be sufficient to maintain the house properly and if his income is on the lower side, he should earn more and should make efforts to earn more and if he is not able to earn sufficient income, then all others in the house should also join him and they all should try to add to the income of the house, but they should not go to others for help because the people to whom they are approaching have got their own problems and they may not be able to help them.

We must see that our present demands are fulfilled and then we shall have to ensure that our old age and difficult days are also secure and we should make some savings too. There are so many institutions which are keeping our money safe. We can have an insurance policy and similarly we can purchase a policy for the safety of our house and other household effects so that we may not be having worries about the loss of our properties through fire or through some other casualty. We should have good relations in our family, in hour neighbourhood, in our society, in our village, in our town and with all with whom we work and with whom we have relations. If we are married person, then it is our duty to have good relations with the other life partner and we must be faithful and sincere to that life partner. If we have children, we must ensure that they are getting proper education, proper training and they shall be adjusted in life during our life time and we are the main contributor towards their settlement in life. They must feel proud of you.

We should keep our health properly and we must see that we are having good reputation amongst all with whom we have got some relations. We should not develop enmity with others because such enmities often create troubles for us and we are not at ease in time of our rest even. We may be having hundred and one friends, but only one enemy shall be enough to bring troubles for us. We should ensure that we are not spending our time, energy, resources and mind in Courts and in hospitals. These two places are most dangerous for us because once we have been here, then it shall become difficult for us to go out of these two institutions. And most of our time, energy, resources and mind shall be wasted here and even then we are not sure that we shall be spared or not.

We should be punctual and we should not leave our work pending for the other day or days. We should finish our work and we must ensure that none goes commenting upon us adversely. Everyone coming to us must go back satisfied and happy and when we make others happy, they bring happiness for us. The people who are working with us demand our love and affection and in return they are ready to give us happiness and pleasure. If we are clear, we shall remain clear and our life shall be full of happiness and satisfaction, but when we are not clear towards others, then those people are also not having clear mind for us. We shall be facing difficulties and problems and we shall be trying to solve those problems and difficulties. Some time we shall be successful and at times we would not be successful. Successes shall bring happiness and failures may bring us sadness, but we shall have to accept both because this is a life and here successes and failures, both shall be coming to us. We are here looking at a Hindi Movie where the people are also suffering and people are also enjoying life and in the end they are happy and satisfied. We must live life like this because here we shall have to complete the tenure given to us and all of us shall complete this tenure. The people who are labouring and the people who are just sitting and having all the facilities at their command, both live life and go out of this life. Very few of these people shall be remembered by the people who shall be here after our death. Therefore, this fact of life must also be understood and we must be satisfied what is happening with us and we should remain satisfied with our luck and fate and we should face destiny too. But it does not mean that we should not do our efforts. We must try to solve our problems and difficulties and if do not pass, it is not our fault. At least we must be satisfied in our heart of hearts that we had played our part well. And this fact of life shall be giving us all the pleasures in life.

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Reputation of a woman

Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate.

When I was a child, my mother had been telling me that a woman should keep herself neat and clean and she must earn a good reputation. She also told me that once a woman loses her reputation, she would not be able to re-earn that reputation once again and she would be branded a bad woman around the society in which she is living. She further told me that a woman must marry so that she should get a man to protect her and if her husband dies, she must try to have another man or she should return to the house of her own parents or should live with her sons and she must get their protection. She told me that the men living around the woman are not good people and they shall always be ready to destroy her reputation. Therefore, a woman must try to see that she is not exposed to men.

I had been hearing such speeches from the side of my mother and even my grand mother confirmed these teachings. I had been in school, then in college and I remained in the University for about four years. I joined there as a research scholar and had been doing Ph.D. there. I had been associated with so many boys and some of them were very close to me. Here I could understand the real meaning of the speeches my mother had been delivering to me. I noted that some of the boys were trying to come near to me and when they were near to me they started suggesting to me that we should go out and stay in some hotel for a few days. They were offering that they shall be meeting all the expenses and they shall be keeping everything secret and none shall know about this tour. At this stage I could recall all what my mother had been telling me. If I actually leave the station with some boy and remain absent from the house for some days, the people in the house, her mother, her father, her brothers and sisters shall not tolerate all this and my sisters in law shall be exposing me before the neighbours and even they shall be communicating all these happenings to their parents. And once all this shall come out, I shall be losing all respect and honour in the society in which I live.

In spite of all this I was having a desire in my mind that I should go with one of my boy friends and enjoy life. I was considering myself a modern girl and therefore, I wanted to ignore all the honour of my family and my parents.

I had been seeing Hindi films in which boys and girls had been meeting each other and had been having *** and then the girl had been turning pregnant and then she had been deciding that she would give birth to the child and shall not conduct abortion. But my friend Suneeta was not accepting all my suggestions and she had been telling me, “ It is very easy to look at a Hindi Film and see the girl suffering. But it is very difficult to live such a life. Your father is the Superintending Engineer in the Public Works department, your brother is the District Treasury Officer, your sisters in law are teachers and your mother is still the principal of a higher secondary school. They people have their own status in the society around them and therefore, they shall not be at ease when they shall hear that their daughter had been absent from the house for a few days and had been roaming with a boy at Shimla. So many people from this town shall be present at Shimla and so many people shall be recognizing you and then shall be spreading the whole news to the people who were not present at Shimla. Therefore, you may be modern, but you should not venture on these paths because our society is not so advanced.”

I was not happy with my friend Suneeta and therefore, I ignored her advice. I was reading a news paper in which there had been a news about a divorce. When I read the news, it was about one of my class fellows Ranjana. She had been with a boy friend out of the station for some days and turned pregnant. When she approached that boy to have marriage with her, he had said, “ I shall not marry a pregnant girl. What the people would say. You are a girl and you should be clean. If you could not keep your reputation intact, you are no more member of this respected society. People would not be happy to see that I have married a pregnant girl.” It was in the news paper that she approached the Court and even the court could not direct the boy to have marriage with that girl. Her counsel had suggested that she can claim damages from the boy and when the child is out, he or she would be in a position to get maintenance and the child shall also be eligible to get share in the properties left by the father of the child. This was the news in the paper which brought a clear picture in my mind and therefore, I got that paper and went straight to the boy who was very eager to take me to a hill station and said, “ If at all you are very much interested in me, you should arrange your marriage with me and only then we shall be able to visit a hill station all alone. Otherwise, I would not take such a risk.” On this his simple reply was, “ I was having in my mind only enjoyment which every young man wants at this stage. Marriage is a different question which needs so many aspects to be examined and I am not in a position to decide finally about my marriage.” And this answer from the side of the boy was enough for me to confirm what my mother had been telling me .